Strengthen marriage with a new perspective

Here’s a sweet letter sent out from our head coach, Dr. Abigail Hirsch, about how her new baby inspired a strengthen marriage tip. Dr. Hirsch gave birth to her fourth child five months ago. At the end of August we’ll be featuring a post from her about her experiences with postpartum depression. Enjoy!


Hello Power of Two Member,

Today was a big day in our house.  Our five month old baby just got big enough to sit in a high chair at the table with the

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Our children can teach us skills to strengthen of us. This new perspective was transformative.  All of a sudden his three big brothers noticed him.  For pretty much the first time they started chatting away with the little guy. And, he in turn found their stories so funny he couldn’t stop chortling.

What does this have to do with marriage?  For me, it was a wonderful reminder how just a little shift in perspective can make a huge difference in how people relate to each other. The break in routine at the dinner table suddenly established the little guy’s place in the family–as another member, not just “the baby.” Our relationships fall into the doldrums when our perspectives solidify and we start taking things for granted–changing just a small routine can help strengthen marriage.

Give it try.  Switch where you sit at the table or swap sides of the bed.  Or maybe try changing the afterwork greeting routine a bit.  What’s different with a change in perspective?  Even better, what fun things can you notice about your spouse from the new view?


Abigail and the Power of Two Coaching Team


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