Are you compatible? eHarmony Guest Post

This article is a special guest post written for Power of Two by eHarmony Blog’s writing team. Compatibility is an important part of any relationship, whether you’re just dating, considering marriage, or celebrating your 20th anniversary. What is compatibility? Read on.


There are a few key components that make up a healthy, successful relationship – from mutual respect to chemistry. In order to work out if you are compatible with your partner, read on and find out what characterizes a healthy relationship:


Ask yourself if your partner properly respects you. Mutual respect for one another in a relationship is essential; there should be no feeling of judgment or belittlement of your beliefs, emotions or actions. Instead you should be able to listen to each other and try to see things from the other’s point of view.


Does your other half care for you and treat you properly? Do they support you in your goals or when you’re going through a hard time? Valuing each other and showing support is vital in a compatible relationship, as it shows your partner what they mean to you.

Expressing that you care through physical touch is also important – giving hugs, kisses and caresses increases feelings of affection and intimacy.

Compatible partners feel harmony with each other.


If you feel you have a connection with your partner mentally and physically, that’s half the battle won. You should feel comfortable around them, the conversation should flow easily and you should feel happy to see them [editor’s note: an occasional bad day is OK too! You don’t have to be madly in love 24/7]. A sexual connection is very important too –  passion and chemistry in the bedroom inevitably affect the intimacy and romance in a relationship.

Do you feel it’s right?

Sometimes just trusting your gut feeling is the best way to tell if someone is right for you. If you ‘just know’, then go with that feeling. If you feel, however, that it’s not quite right, don’t stick around. The person may seem great in every way and you can’t quite work out what’s missing, but sometimes these things are just meant to be felt and not understood.


If you’re struggling to find someone who is compatible with you, online dating is an easy way to find somebody who is right for you. Dating sites such as will match you with other singles based on interests and personality traits.

Whether you’re  dating in Halifax or Toronto, there will be no shortage of compatible singles, so give it a go. Just remember, you don’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t feel quite right or who doesn’t respect you.

You can find the right person, and your chances of this will increase with dating sites doing some of the work for you. Click here for more information about finding your match online.