It may sound a bit far fetched, that said if you’re facing marriage problems, paddle ball may be just the sport for you!
Side note: We went to the beach today for a little end of season visit. As the weather was getting chilly, there weren’t to many swimmers, but kites, paddle ball and frisbee tossing were all the rage.
So, back to paddle ball. We were sitting next to a young couple who clearly loved paddle ball. Plink, plink, plink, plink went their little ball back and forth, forth and back.
Distracted from my book, I started to think about marriage problems and what could be learned from this couple’s plink, plink plinking. Here’s a few of my musings.
- Keep track of how many in a row you two can get together. Marriage problems only get worse if you keep score about who did what wrong. If you want to assign a score, count how many “hits” you get together. Can you do 5 conversation turns and keep it happy? 20? A whole day?
- Pick a pace that’s nice for both of you. It was clear the guy in this couple could have hit the ball a lot harder. And he didn’t. He went for enjoying the game together instead of smashing every ball. Same in marriage. Marriage problems can take some time to sort out. Find a pace that works for both of you.
- Enjoy each others company. That’s the real reason to play paddle ball — it’s a fun thing to do on the beach together. Marriage help goes the same way. It often is best to try to start with remembering how to have some fun together.
- Be active. OK, so I was glued to my beach chair all day. And, I could see how nice it was for the paddle ballers to be actively moving around. When facing marriage problems be active about learning new skills. And literally, be active too – – amazing how more effective conversations sometimes are while walking around the block.