Relationship Q&A: Depression: His and Hers

This Ladies’ Home Journal Q&A is a tough one. A reader describes a tough situation, in which her marriage was affected by her own depression and past hurtful treatment towards her husband. Now, he’s moved out, and while she’s sought treatment and seeks resolution with her husband, he has begun to suffer from his own bout of depression and regards their life together with a more “closed door” attitude.

What’s a wife to do?

Dr. Heitler encourages the reader to remember her husband’s depression, which may allow her take his reluctance to reconnect less personally.  Heitler recommends a heart to heart, which may help the reader to understand her husband’s concerns about reconciliation.

Depression can wreak havoc on even the strongest relationships, read more to learn the rest of Dr. Heitler’s recommendations.


Our Kids Drove Us Crazy: Did They Succeed?

Power of Two absolutely loves the article, “Our Kids Drove Us Crazy” from Ladie’s Home Journal.  Annette and Michael Feinstein have, what they like to call, “boomerang kids.”  Their two children, then 25 and 26, had both returned home after college.  As parents, Michael and Annette found themselves on opposite sides of the table when it came to the children moving on — and out.

After two years of a full house, Annette had had enough.  She moved out.

Curious how this story ends? Read the rest of the article online at


Relationship Q&A: Hiding Credit Card Debt

Credit card debt is a tough topic.  While it might be tempting to try and keep it from your spouse,  as an adult, it’s important to come clean.

No one wants to incur their spouse’s anger, at the same time remind yourself that it to shall pass.  Still, you must be thoughtful about how and when you tell you husband.  Read Dr. Heitler’s suggestions.


Relationship Q&A: He Makes Me Feel Guilty About Shopping

At Power of Two, we like to shop!  I mean, who doesn’t?  So, we were all too pleased when Dr. Heitler answered the age old question — What do you do when you money personalities don’t match?

Heitler suggests finding a calm way to talk about such a sensitive subject.  Talk about how each of your parents managed discussions about money.  It’s important to find deeper understanding about each others’ financial tendencies.  Once you have, you can create a spending plan that’s just right for both of you.

Read more!


Relationship Q&A: I Get No Help From My Husband

Do you feel more like a maid than a wife and mother? You’re not alone.

In this LHJ Q&A session, Dr. Heitler addresses the key concept of being teammates. It may sound silly, but when it comes to the dision of  labor in a marriage, you need to work together!

Dr. Heitler suggests creating an official task list. Then, sit down together and go through the list, taking turns selecting tasks.  Keep at it until the whole list has been accounted for.  Whatever you do, don’t criticize your husband’s way of doing things. Instead offer encouragement for his efforts, and be careful not to gradually start t o pick up or re-do his tasks.

Finish this great read here!


Can This Marriage Be Saved? They Fought Over Chores and Decisions

Power of Two is excited to see Dr. Heitler as a contributor to one of the longest running segments in Ladies’ Home Journal: Can this Marriage Be Saved?

So, what happens when LHJ catches up with a couple who, eight years ago, were on the brink of divorce?

Great News! The couple just celebrated their 31st anniversary and have welcomed 3 grandchildren to the family. How did they do it? The couple consulted Power of Two’s Dr. Heitler. With her help, they were able to forge a new path based on mutual respect and communication.

Read the whole story at


Relationship Q&A: My Depression Drove My Wife Away

Once again, we’re having fun reading Dr. Heitler’s latest advice on how to save your marriage.    Ladies’ Home Journal just came out with a Q&A on how to keep anger and fighting from ruining your marriage.    The bottom line– control and anger don’t work– skilled communication and mutual appreciation do!

Read more of  Dr. Heitler’s answer.


LHJ Relationship Q&A: I Want Him to Have a Steady Income

Finances are a common trigger of marital distress. With economic downturn comes added stress. So, what is one to do if their partner’s income stream is somewhat unreliable?

Dr. Heitler addresses the concerns of a LHJ reader with exactly this problem. She gives great advice about how to navigate a spouses feelings, and at the same time make sure one’s own concerns are know. She suggests keeping it positive, and utilizing the magic words “yes” and “and.” It’s important to express admiration and pride in your spouse’s work, and at the same time to keep your financial insecurities as part of the conversation.

Interested in the whole story? Read it online at


LHJ Relationship Q&A: Keeping in Touch with Former Flames

Dr. Heitler answers a tough question posed by a Ladies’ Home Journal reader.

The reader asks about her husband’s habit of keeping in touch with former flames. What is one to do when their spouse is hanging around the ex?

Dr. Heitler answers candidly, and makes suggestions about how to approach the topic. Heitler suggests being clever, not coercive, and approaching the serious topic during a romantic evening or special afternoon together. She offers advice to the reader on how to express to her husband how important she feels their marriage is, and at the same time express her concerns about his alone time with another woman.

Want the whole scoop? Read it online at


Dr. Heitler on the power of good communication in marriage.

Lifestyle Magazine

Watch Dr. Heitler on Lifestyle Magazine as she talks with Mike and Gayle Tucker about the power of good communication in a marriage.

One way couples enjoy each other is through the exchange of words. Talking together is a way of sharing experiences, and signaling that you value one anothers’ input.

Join Dr. Heitler as she guides a young couple through a tough dialogue about where they are going to live.  Follow along to learn the key skills involved in a productive conversation, then, try it out for yourself!