Finances are a common trigger of marital distress. With economic downturn comes added stress. So, what is one to do if their partner’s income stream is somewhat unreliable?
Dr. Heitler addresses the concerns of a LHJ reader with exactly this problem. She gives great advice about how to navigate a spouses feelings, and at the same time make sure one’s own concerns are know. She suggests keeping it positive, and utilizing the magic words “yes” and “and.” It’s important to express admiration and pride in your spouse’s work, and at the same time to keep your financial insecurities as part of the conversation.
The reader asks about her husband’s habit of keeping in touch with former flames. What is one to do when their spouse is hanging around the ex?
Dr. Heitler answers candidly, and makes suggestions about how to approach the topic. Heitler suggests being clever, not coercive, and approaching the serious topic during a romantic evening or special afternoon together. She offers advice to the reader on how to express to her husband how important she feels their marriage is, and at the same time express her concerns about his alone time with another woman.