Infidelity is no small problem. In 2008, USA TODAY reported that, “More than half of Americans — 54% — know someone who has an unfaithful spouse, according to a nationwide USA TODAY/Gallup Poll of 1,025 adults.”
So what are married couples to do with people like Larry King out there setting the example? You can’t lock your spouse in the basement, or monitor their every move… Well, I guess you could, but that would be a whole other can of worms entirely.
What does Dr. Heitler and the Power of Two think?
Check out this article from the Denver Post. Dr. Heitler sheds light on the issue of infidelity, in light of Larry’s latest scandal.
In this issue of Ladies’ Home Journal, Margery D. Rosen profiles a couple who turned to Dr. Heitler when tough economic times took their toll on the couple’s marriage.
Her husband had an MBA in finance, the drive to work for a start-up company, and confidence. But, after being laid off from one job, and fired from another, he was unrecognizable. His new found negativism and pessimism was about to take a big toll on their marriage.
It’s a good thing the sought the help of Power of Two‘s very own Dr. Heitler. Read the story in Ladies’ Home Journal, and see if this marriage was saved.
This Ladies’ Home Journal Q&A is a tough one. A reader describes a tough situation, in which her marriage was affected by her own depression and past hurtful treatment towards her husband. Now, he’s moved out, and while she’s sought treatment and seeks resolution with her husband, he has begun to suffer from his own bout of depression and regards their life together with a more “closed door” attitude.
What’s a wife to do?
Dr. Heitler encourages the reader to remember her husband’s depression, which may allow her take his reluctance to reconnect less personally. Heitler recommends a heart to heart, which may help the reader to understand her husband’s concerns about reconciliation.
Depression can wreak havoc on even the strongest relationships, read more to learn the rest of Dr. Heitler’s recommendations.
Power of Two absolutely loves the article, “Our Kids Drove Us Crazy” from Ladie’s Home Journal. Annette and Michael Feinstein have, what they like to call, “boomerang kids.” Their two children, then 25 and 26, had both returned home after college. As parents, Michael and Annette found themselves on opposite sides of the table when it came to the children moving on — and out.
After two years of a full house, Annette had had enough. She moved out.
Credit card debt is a tough topic. While it might be tempting to try and keep it from your spouse, as an adult, it’s important to come clean.
No one wants to incur their spouse’s anger, at the same time remind yourself that it to shall pass. Still, you must be thoughtful about how and when you tell you husband. Read Dr. Heitler’s suggestions.
At Power of Two, we like to shop! I mean, who doesn’t? So, we were all too pleased when Dr. Heitler answered the age old question — What do you do when you money personalities don’t match?
Heitler suggests finding a calm way to talk about such a sensitive subject. Talk about how each of your parents managed discussions about money. It’s important to find deeper understanding about each others’ financial tendencies. Once you have, you can create a spending plan that’s just right for both of you.
Do you feel more like a maid than a wife and mother? You’re not alone.
In this LHJ Q&A session, Dr. Heitler addresses the key concept of being teammates. It may sound silly, but when it comes to the dision of labor in a marriage, you need to work together!
Dr. Heitler suggests creating an official task list. Then, sit down together and go through the list, taking turns selecting tasks. Keep at it until the whole list has been accounted for. Whatever you do, don’t criticize your husband’s way of doing things. Instead offer encouragement for his efforts, and be careful not to gradually start t o pick up or re-do his tasks.
Power of Two is excited to see Dr. Heitler as a contributor to one of the longest running segments in Ladies’ Home Journal: Can this Marriage Be Saved?
So, what happens when LHJ catches up with a couple who, eight years ago, were on the brink of divorce?
Great News! The couple just celebrated their 31st anniversary and have welcomed 3 grandchildren to the family. How did they do it? The couple consulted Power of Two’s Dr. Heitler. With her help, they were able to forge a new path based on mutual respect and communication.
Once again, we’re having fun reading Dr. Heitler’s latest advice on how to save your marriage. Ladies’ Home Journal just came out with a Q&A on how to keep anger and fighting from ruining your marriage. The bottom line– control and anger don’t work– skilled communication and mutual appreciation do!
Finances are a common trigger of marital distress. With economic downturn comes added stress. So, what is one to do if their partner’s income stream is somewhat unreliable?
Dr. Heitler addresses the concerns of a LHJ reader with exactly this problem. She gives great advice about how to navigate a spouses feelings, and at the same time make sure one’s own concerns are know. She suggests keeping it positive, and utilizing the magic words “yes” and “and.” It’s important to express admiration and pride in your spouse’s work, and at the same time to keep your financial insecurities as part of the conversation.