Communication with your spouse: Win win decision making.

This week is all about win win decision making.  Last week’s post was about the importance of staying in the calm zone but what happens next? After you have noticed the signs that you are reaching your anger ceiling you have hopefully walked away, taken some time to cool off and then you return to the conversation.

Communication with your spouse isn't always easy
Communication with your spouse isn’t always easy. The right skills can make all the difference.

So what’s the next step? How can you enhance communication with your spouse in a way that allows you to tackle a tough topic and move out of conflict and into a collaborative decision making stance? WIN WIN decision making is the answer. Yes, there are a few communication basics that are helpful to understand like avoiding crossovers and learning effective listening strategies that we have covered in the past.  Once you have learned the basics, the next step is to use the win win strategies outlined by Dr. Susan Heitler in her book and workbook and skills taught at Power of Two online. Continue reading Communication with your spouse: Win win decision making.

Dr. Heitler featured in Parent Guide News

A great article from Parent Guide News features Dr. Heitler writing about the age-old issue of mine versus ours.

She covers sharing time, activities, space, and other common shar-isms. And, more importantly, she highlights the slipery-slope which might show face if couples aren’t careful about how they spend their alone time.

It’s hard to know how much time is the right amount of time to be spending together or apart. This is a great read to help show you the ropes!

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Surviving Infidelity: Dr. Heitler sheds light on infidelity in the wake of David Letterman’s recent confessions

Infidelity is no small problem.  In 2008, USA TODAY reported that, “More than half of Americans — 54% — know someone who has an unfaithful spouse, according to a nationwide USA TODAY/Gallup Poll of 1,025 adults.”

Larry King with wife, Shawn Southwick-King

So what are married couples to do with people like Larry King out there setting the example?  You can’t lock your spouse in the basement, or monitor their every move… Well, I guess you could, but that would be a whole other can of worms entirely.

What does Dr. Heitler and the Power of Two think?

Check out this article from the Denver Post.  Dr. Heitler sheds light on the issue of infidelity, in light of Larry’s latest scandal.