How did you celebrate your New Year? Probably not googling around for online marriage help!
The ball may have dropped on Times Square and next time you write a check, remember it’s 2017 now, yet it is certainly not too late to usher in the best possible for 2017. Reading about New Year’s traditions the world around started me thinking about how much they teach about how to move forwards from challenges, especially if those challenges come in the form of relationship issues or marriage problems.
Here are a few particularly striking cross-cultural New Years traditions, and for each a few thoughts on what they can teach about making a new era for a relationship – whether it’s New Year’s Day or any of the other 364 days of the year.
The tradition: One Scottish tradition is “first-footing.” In the early moments of the New Year Scott’s visit their neighbors with gifts of coal for the fire or yummy shortbread.
The advice: When you want to put a relationship on new footing, a simple warm, nourishing gift or gesture can really help. That said, a loving note or a bouquet of flowers might be more appropriate than coal.
The tradition: A silver or gold coin is baked into St. Basil’s cake. Whoever finds the gold coin will be especially lucky in the upcoming year.
The advice: When eating your figurative cake (that would be gong through life in your relationship), look for the gold coin that might be hidden within. Keeping your focus on the positive moments or hidden treasures helps everyone to feel more appreciated!
The tradition: At midnight Buddhist temples strike their gongs 108 time to try to expel 108 kinds of human weaknesses.
The advice: Everyone has weaknesses. At the same time, learning about common relationship mistakes and then calling out loudly to yourself each time you slip into an “oops” will help you bring in skills and strengths in place of those weaknesses.
Happy New Year!