If you’ve been in a romantic relationship you have probably faced your own feelings of jealousy or been the recipient of accusations at one point or another. Even the strongest marriages might experience this uncomfortable feeling from time to time. So how do you deal with jealousy in your marriage?
A really important first step is to take some advice from this classic song…“before you accuse me, take a look at yourself!” If you find yourself experiencing jealousy it is important to first take stock of how your actions, behaviors or thoughts are contributing to the situation. Are you bringing old baggage or past familial experiences to bare in your current relationship. In cases of infidelity and jealousy both partners play a part and placing all the blame on one side of the scale is problematic. Once you have gained some understanding about your own thoughts and feelings it’s time to tackle the conversation with your partner.
Here is Dr. Hirsch’s 3 Step plan to deal with jealousy and get your relationship back on track:
The Science of a Happy Marriage? I was skeptical too…
Yesterday in the Times Tara Parker-Pope shared her insight on the factors which may affect a person’s tendency to stay committed. Scientists are studying the biological, psychological, and everything in between. Interestingly enough, their findings suggest that while some people may be more naturally inclined to resisting temptation, people can also train themselves to protect their relationships, and strengthen their commitment.
Infidelity is no small problem. In 2008, USA TODAY reported that, “More than half of Americans — 54% — know someone who has an unfaithful spouse, according to a nationwide USA TODAY/Gallup Poll of 1,025 adults.”
So what are married couples to do with people like Larry King out there setting the example? You can’t lock your spouse in the basement, or monitor their every move… Well, I guess you could, but that would be a whole other can of worms entirely.
What does Dr. Heitler and the Power of Two think?
Check out this article from the Denver Post. Dr. Heitler sheds light on the issue of infidelity, in light of Larry’s latest scandal.