In a date night rut? Does the thought of Valentine’s Day inspire boredom and you’d rather just stay home in your Pj’s and skip the whole production? Well don’t! As cliche as the idea of date night can be maybe you’ve just run out of good ideas!
Here are some fun ideas to light up that relationship spark and get in the mood for love again.
1. Take a guided tour of your city together.
Most larger cities (and certainly some smaller cities as well) offer all kinds of tours. Maybe you recently moved to a new city or maybe you’ve called your city home for years there is no doubt there is undiscovered territory. For the history buff a landmark tour might be a no brainer, even for a history novice finding out little know facts about your city can help you feel more rooted and connected to your surroundings and hopefully your partner too! Even better find a double decker bus, segway or bicycle tour to push your comfort zone and to keep the date feeling light hearted and fun.
We are going to be running a short series here on the Power of Two blog over the next few weeks. Let’s call it a mini-course on how to communicate with your spouse. Essentially it boils down to this, communication in marriage is essential and so many folks struggle with how to do it! When you stop communicating with a spouse or partner it’s a signal that something may be wrong, but what? Why did you stop talking? Or maybe you talk to each other all day, and at the same time never really share anything deeper than the surface anymore. Remember when you were first dating, falling in love or getting married, did it ever feel like there wasn’t enough time in the day to talk to each other about life, dreams, ideas, art, music, books? Getting back to that level of conversation may take time, just like anything else though you just have to start somewhere. Here an idea of where to start…
Ask good questions.
Sounds simple right? Learning to talk to each other again is a process and takes some time and practice. Taking the time to learn new skills is invaluable for any relationship. One of the core skills groups we teach Power of Two is talking and listening. Talking about thoughts, feelings, ideas, wishes without falling into the crossover trap and listening to learn. While these skills require effort and time to learn, there are simple steps you can take to start to turn things around today.
We are kicking off this series in honor of Valentine’s day. The theme of this post is how to communicate with your spouse, on a date. If you are one of the lucky ones who managed to secure a babysitter and get reservations at a romantic restaurant you may want to spend a little time thinking about how to intentionally reconnect to partner while you have the time carved out. Even if you plan to stay home and do something more low key, you can invite a deeper experience with a little thought ahead of time. Continue reading How to communicate with your spouse: On a date